July 3, 2013
"Gay Pride was not born out of a need to celebrate being gay, but instead our right to exist without prosecution. … So maybe instead of wondering why there isn’t a Straight Pride month or movement, straight people should be thankful they don’t need one."

From LZ Granderson's commentary, “Why isn’t there Straight Pride month?

The whole piece is pretty darn good. Talks about Alan Turing, “the father of computer science”, who committed suicide in 1954 after a two-year period that started with an arrest for being gay after he reported a home robbery, and then being forced to receive female hormone injections, essentially chemical castration, to avoid prison. He was just 41 years old.

Relevant, as I begin editing a new documentary short on a similar topic. This also goes for those questioning why there isn’t a White History month.

May 27, 2013
Another anti-gay hate crime in NYC

gaywrites:

Prominent LGBT activist Eugene Lovendusky was attacked in the New York City neighborhood of Hell’s Kitchen on Friday night, marking the 9th anti-gay crime in NYC in the last 30 days. 

Lovendusky reported that a group of as many as 10 men yelled anti-gay slurs at him and punched him in the jaw. Among the other recent attacks include the murder of Mark Carson, a 32-year-old gay man who was shot at point-blank range on May 18. 

A social media campaign is underway to get people mobilized against the recent slew of violence:

That campaign, labeled #AskQuestions, asked LGBT people to meet Saturday night at 10 p.m. on the corner of 34th St. and 7th Ave. carrying signs that read “I Am A Homosexual. #AskQuestions.” Participants marched their signs through neighborhoods where recent antigay assaults have taken place, inviting bystanders to ask questions and get informed, rather than strike out in violent ignorance.

In addition to Carson’s murder, several gay couples and individual gay men have been assaulted by groups of assailants yelling homophobic epithets in recent weeks. A nightlife promoter was assaulted in Lower Manhattan Monday night, just hours after a peace rally that called for an end to the anti-LGBT violence. That same evening, a gay Latino couple was assaulted in the early morning hours in SoHo by two men yelling antigay slurs. Two more antigay assaults took place near Madison Square Garden earlier this month — one on May 10, and another on May 5

Jesus. This is terrifying. 

Stay strong, New York.

March 28, 2013
ahotsecond:

Okay, so changing your profile pic may not mean much to a lot of you. It’s okay. You’re thinking this doesn’t really do anything. I get that. Okay. But it does something for me.
I’m gay. To some extent I’m completely out, some not at all. It really depends on who. Like most gays (aside from the ever-present fabulously flamboyant types), we don’t find a need to plaster that all over the place, so how else would you know, random person on the street or Facebook friend from 20 years ago?
So if any of you keep up with me…sometime last year I decided to start reconnecting with people I hadn’t talked to in a long time. A few of these people would be from the tiny southern town in Illinois where I grew up all through elementary school. Our family was the only other Asian family in the town where we were assumed to be related to the Filipino family. I mean, we all have Asian eyes, right?! Anyway, in lieu of contacting old friends, I emailed someone who I had considered the big sister I never had. Within my second email, I made sure to “out” myself, mostly because I felt that it would pertain to my story in catching up. She ignored me for a month or so. Then, she replied with “I don’t believe in same sex relationships, but I’ll love you no matter what.” I replied once more with my defense of being gay & it not being a choice, in hopes that it would make it easier. I haven’t heard from her since.
So this entire time from those emails, in my mind, I had assumed that a good majority of those people in my small town, of which I went to a Catholic school no less, couldn’t accept me. I didn’t blame them. They grew up thinking a certain way & sometimes people are just beyond understanding. But when these HRC logos started popping up as profile pics, it changed me. People I grew up with were on my side, whether they knew it or not. These tiny gestures became a big sigh of relief on my part and have given me comfort in reconnecting again. (No one also blatantly spoke out against gay marriage or the like. Those would have been out of my life completely. But for most, I just could never tell one way or another.)
So that’s my piece on the whole matter. Changing your damned FB profile pic does not change the world. Fine. But for some like me, it makes all the difference.

What I wanted to explain to people snarking others for changing their default pictures, ahotsecond says perfectly.

ahotsecond:

Okay, so changing your profile pic may not mean much to a lot of you. It’s okay. You’re thinking this doesn’t really do anything. I get that. Okay. But it does something for me.

I’m gay. To some extent I’m completely out, some not at all. It really depends on who. Like most gays (aside from the ever-present fabulously flamboyant types), we don’t find a need to plaster that all over the place, so how else would you know, random person on the street or Facebook friend from 20 years ago?

So if any of you keep up with me…sometime last year I decided to start reconnecting with people I hadn’t talked to in a long time. A few of these people would be from the tiny southern town in Illinois where I grew up all through elementary school. Our family was the only other Asian family in the town where we were assumed to be related to the Filipino family. I mean, we all have Asian eyes, right?! Anyway, in lieu of contacting old friends, I emailed someone who I had considered the big sister I never had. Within my second email, I made sure to “out” myself, mostly because I felt that it would pertain to my story in catching up. She ignored me for a month or so. Then, she replied with “I don’t believe in same sex relationships, but I’ll love you no matter what.” I replied once more with my defense of being gay & it not being a choice, in hopes that it would make it easier. I haven’t heard from her since.

So this entire time from those emails, in my mind, I had assumed that a good majority of those people in my small town, of which I went to a Catholic school no less, couldn’t accept me. I didn’t blame them. They grew up thinking a certain way & sometimes people are just beyond understanding. But when these HRC logos started popping up as profile pics, it changed me. People I grew up with were on my side, whether they knew it or not. These tiny gestures became a big sigh of relief on my part and have given me comfort in reconnecting again. (No one also blatantly spoke out against gay marriage or the like. Those would have been out of my life completely. But for most, I just could never tell one way or another.)

So that’s my piece on the whole matter. Changing your damned FB profile pic does not change the world. Fine. But for some like me, it makes all the difference.

What I wanted to explain to people snarking others for changing their default pictures, ahotsecond says perfectly.

(via inothernews)

December 15, 2012

On-Air with Doug posted the trailer for a documentary called (A)Sexual on his Twitter feed today. The world of asexual individuals is something I know very little about, so I’m looking forward to checking this out during the holiday break.

(A)Sexual is now streaming on Netflix, if you’d like to take a watch. 

November 7, 2012

For the first time in my life, I see myself and the people I love represented in our government. Mazie Hirono became the first Asian-American elected to the U.S. Senate. Tammy Baldwin became the first openly lesbian Senator. Tammy Duckworth became the first disabled woman elected to the House. An African-American president, the first, was re-elected for a second term.

This is my American family. And I’m proud to live here.

We’re not perfect, we’ve still got a lot more to accomplish. But we’re on our way. Last night, there were children watching the election results who will never know what it feels like to not feel represented in their country. Incredible.

(Photo credit: Duckworth, Baldwin, Hirono, Obama)

October 2, 2012
An event we’ve been working on the past couple of weeks takes place this Sunday, October 7th at The Mint in Los Angeles. Be there!

An event we’ve been working on the past couple of weeks takes place this Sunday, October 7th at The Mint in Los Angeles. Be there!

August 29, 2012
Ira Sachs’ Keep The Lights On is a beautiful, heartbreaking love story, and needs to be seen.
Opens in select theatres September 7th. Watch the trailer here.

Ira Sachs’ Keep The Lights On is a beautiful, heartbreaking love story, and needs to be seen.

Opens in select theatres September 7th. Watch the trailer here.

June 3, 2012
"But in this instance, I did not make the connection. I didn’t get it."

Jason Alexander (Seinfeld) was on Craig Ferguson’s show last week and during his interview, made a bit of a gaffe. He responded via Twitter with a solid, sincere apology.

Full letter absolutely worth the read.

Shortly after that however, a few of my Twitter followers made me aware that they were both gay and offended by the joke. And truthfully, I could not understand why. I do know that humor always points to the peccadillos or absurdities or glaring generalities of some kind of group or another – short, fat, bald, blonde, ethnic, smart, dumb, rich, poor, etc. It is hard to tell any kind of joke that couldn’t be seen as offensive to someone. But I truly did not understand why a gay person would be particularly offended by this routine.

However, troubled by the reaction of some, I asked a few of my gay friends about it. And at first, even they couldn’t quite find the offense in the bit. But as we explored it, we began to realize what was implied under the humor. (full text)

April 16, 2012

Don’t mind me, just playing the same teaser and feeling bummed, again, like I’ve done four or five times since discovering David W. Ross’s IndieGoGo campaign for “I Do" this weekend.

Seriously. Him standing in front of the window, alone. The hospital. Heart. Clenched.

Hoping he submits to NFMLA, or screens somewhere in LA. I need to see this.

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